Making neurodivergence work for you!

I work with neurodivergent adults who are trying to make sense of themselves, their work, their studies, and the expectations placed on them.

Many people arrive at coaching after years of being told, directly or indirectly, that they need to try harder, be more organised, communicate differently, or become more like everyone else. They may understand what they need to do, yet still find it difficult to start, prioritise, remember, regulate emotions, manage energy, or follow through consistently.

I do not believe these struggles mean that someone is lazy, careless, incapable, or lacking ambition. Often, they are signs that the strategies, environments, or expectations around them have not been designed with their way of thinking in mind. Most of the time there is a mis-match with the neuronormative way of being.

My approach is grounded in the neurodiversityparadigm with special focus on ADHD/Autism/Gifted coaching and neuro-affirming support.

Together, we explore what is already working, where things become difficult, and what kind of support would make life more sustainable. Coaching may involve understanding your strengths, building practical systems, working with motivation and emotional regulation, setting realistic goals, preparing for difficult conversations, or finding ways to communicate and advocate for your needs.

But most of the time it is raising awareness that your way of living and understanding the world wasn't wrong. It just didn't match the norm of neuronormativity. You experience the world and yourself in a "divergent" way from this norm. That doesn't make your experience bad or wrong.

I am particularly interested in the relationship between self-awareness and practical change. Learning about neurodivergence can be an important first step. Coaching helps you work out what to do with what you can now see.

I also believe that strengths should be part of the conversation. Authenticity, creativity, honesty, integrity, curiosity, and a love of learning can all be valuable parts of a neurodivergent life. But strengths should not become another demand. You should not have to turn every difficulty into a superpower or prove your value through constant productivity.

My own interests reflect this balance between creativity and learning. I enjoy creating stories and imagining new ways to bring neurodiversity into education. I am also drawn to the reflective practice of gratitude and to recognising the people, experiences, and qualities that matter most.

My two daughters continue to remind me why lived experience, acceptance, compassion, and a more inclusive society are so important.

Coaching cannot remove every structural barrier, and it should never place responsibility for those barriers entirely on the individual. What it can do is offer a thoughtful, practical space to understand yourself, reduce shame, make informed choices, develop sustainable strategies, and work towards goals that genuinely belong to you.

Whether you are navigating work, education, relationships, routines, or a period of change, you do not need to arrive with everything figured out. We can begin with what feels most difficult right now and work from there.

You are not a problem to be fixed. You are a person whose needs, strengths, and way of working deserve to be understood.

If this speaks to your experience, you are welcome to get in touch about coaching, join the newsletter, or register your interest in future group sessions.